Now I know that I am still young in marriage and that I still have FOREVER to learn.
But I want to share my knowledge and experience with young couples and soon to be married.
Four months before I got married, the question that everyone asked was ‘’are you keeping your surname?’’, and I was joking about it and saying ‘’do I have a choice?’’ – I obviously knew the answer.
Ever since a young age I always understood that when a woman gets married, she changes her surname to her husbands, and I mean, I have always been excited about it (starting of a new life).
But I sat down once, and I realized things have changed over the years. And I am in no way trying to offend anyone (each to its own – also having different reasons) but I tried to understand the biblical side of it.
God is the one who ordained marriage, which means, everything we do should be pleasing to Him.
I pondered on all of this and the scripture in Romans 12:2 came to mind: ‘’Don’t be conformed to the patterns of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your minds so that you can figure out what Gods will is – what is pleasing and mature.’’
When you make a vow before God onto your partner, you agree to be in unity. Changing your surname reflects that unity, you become one flesh. You create a unique bond. (Genesis 2:24)
It is the man who establishes a new family unit. Their children then also carry the name of the father and they are identified as part of one family unit.
To change your surname means that you are making a permanent, life-long commitment to your husband. You affirm the biblical pattern of your husband being the head of your marriage and household.
Husband and wife are the examples of a relationship between Christ and the church. As a Christian woman changes her surname and receives a new identity, so too it is when we enter into a relationship with Christ – Our identity changes and we become one with God.
Let us not forget the true meaning of marriage.
Let us keep it holy and pleasing to God.
Do not allow the opinion of the world to change your view on marriage.